It's great to start a new year and a brand new decade! There is always much to reflect upon when you look back ten years.
I've been very fortunate as just a few days ago in the span of one day, I was blessed to be reminded of the importance of family, friends and community four times!
1) It all started with a simple walk with my dog in the morning. My neighbor was struggling unloading a family heirloom from her SUV. I stopped and just asked the simple question: "Can I help you?" You could tell from the look in her eyes that she was so grateful that I had come along. It only took minutes for us to move the item together, and I loaned her a hand truck that she could use to move it later once she decided the best place for it in her home. Such a simple gesture meant so much to her, and it was a gift to me as well.
2) Next came a scheduled meeting over coffee with a person who was in transition looking for a new marketing position. We had a mutual friend, and he suggested that the two of us chat. In this economy, it seems that everyone I know is looking for work. I feel blessed that I've been able to continue my consulting practice since leaving my full time corporate position in July 2005. Even though things are sporadic at times, I've been able to survive in these turbulent times. I've found that partnering with others and creating a strong network have been extremely helpful in surviving. I was glad to provide her some advice, and perhaps from this conversation, she will be able to help me, too.
3) Later that afternoon, I drove to Greensboro to attend the funeral of an acquaintance through Toastmasters. The ceremony was very tasteful and the best part was seeing my Toastmasters family. I'm not being trite here...it truly felt like family paying tribute to one of our own. After the tears, hugs and commemoration at the church, we headed to the Cracker Barrel for some reflection and comfort food.
4) Since I was in Greensboro already, I visited a friend who is recouperating at the Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center in Winston-Salem from literally the Mother of All Surgeries (MOAS). I would prefer not to go into details to protect her privacy, but I do want to say that I admire her courage and strength to go through this. I was glad I could be there for her so she didn't have to go through this alone. It was a bit amusing that every medical person who came in contact with her kept asking if we were sisters when I helped to check her into the hospital earlier in the week. Yes, we're both Asian, but we honestly don't look alike at all...so we just decided that she will be my little sister from now on since everyone thinks that anyway. Otherwise, I'd have to use my line of "we're half-sisters...she has a different mother, and I have a different father." :-) All of this started with the one phrase, "can I help you?" when she told me she had no one to be there with her in the hospital. I feel that God told me to be there for her, and I was glad I could help.
It seems we live in a
society where we think we need to be as strong as possible and do
things alone when it's so important to reach out to each other to
either ask for help or to simply give it. Also remember to be
specific. Whether you need help moving something or getting a ride
somewhere, all you need to do is ask!
It's so important to stay connected during any time of need. Whether it involves simply moving furniture, providing advice to an acquaintance, supporting a family through a funeral or supporting a friend through an illness, community bonds help and heal. The thing to keep in mind is to be mindful of asking for help where it's mutually convenient. Most people are happy to help if they know you are also being mindful of them as well.
Do you feel that you need to be so strong that you don't need help?
Do you reach out to your family and friends, and how do you extend your help?
What can you do to let your friends and family know you need them? Don't be embarrassed or ashamed, just ask!





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